Mum and I had a strongly worded Viber messages sent to each other. It was nothing out of the ordinary, hate and fights do happen. But what stood out was maybe what ended the conversation.
It mainly focuses on how I criticize mum for not being active in checking Kenzo’s school works. In fact, she dont. She is unaware what Kenzo can do at school. his progress, what he knows etc.. She is updated on her TV series but not on Kenzo’s work. I felt that it is the parents job (me and mum) to make our kids learn and start the habit of learning. I knew kids will not choose reading a book to riding a bike or playing outside. And if a kid got low grades it is not the kids fault but mostly it is the parents for being lazy to teach.
Currently, I supervised all of Kenzo’s school work but I also need mum to contribute a bit, not much, but just a little of her time to be updated and just make Kenzo feel that his work is important to us.
I said that she was setting a bad example for ignoring Kenzo’s school work. I think it will tell Kenzo that school is secondary and not that important. Now her come back was I am a bad example too for staying at home.
I knew that I am not a good example to kids that I am a stay at home dad. though I got rent income and a freelancer at Pru Life Uk, I knew very well and even worried that this lifestlye is not something kids should aim at when they grow old. I knew it is bad and I have a plan to skip around in and that would be likely in about 5 years.
I dont want them to grow up and see that their dad is at home and just waiting for his rent income every month, that I dont have a career like other dads. Really, I dont want them to see that. So in 5-8years I have a golden plan. When Kenzo is about 13 and Liam 9, I got to move out rather than be a bad example to my kids. Obviuosly, I cannot carved a career from scratch now, it is too late. So I got all planned and I knew what 5-8 years will look like.