We all know how to define family but when it comes to “living it” we twist the definition for the sake convenience.
I believe, family is not just a relationship of a husband and wife, between siblings, and parents and children. It is not composed of several independent relationships.
We sliced our definition of family into several parts so it will be easy for us to deal with it. Ex: if you hate a part of it, may it be the parent or a sister, we can easily SNIP and get RID of it. It is how we deal with (for example) home fixtures, if we are not happy about something, we just replace it with something that we like. We separate each relationship into small boxes.
But the truth is, a family does not and should not work that way. One action towards a family member will affect the others.
Ex: if you made a son happy, it should make the mum or dad happy too. Every relationship within the family is interrelated. If you hate one (wife, mum, sister etc) this would have an effect on the other members. If a son would see his dad womanizing, in reality, it is not an act against JUST on the mum but on the son and the whole family as well. We should not deal with it (as we commonly do today) separately and independently but in one total piece–just one nice (or bad ) relationship bundled together.
Just like with burgers. You cannot call it good hamburgers if the bread is stale or the tomato is rotten. In order for that to be delicious, the burger, tomato, bread etc. must be great. A family is like that, how we all define it must be how it should be.